[Written just after the day in question – edited July 2019]
One Monday at the end of February, I went to Waitrose to do some shopping and have lunch (macaroni cheese – too hot, but delicious) before going to see a clinical psychologist. I asked work to refer me to see someone because I wanted to know whether or not I’m autistic, and it turns out I am. But now I know this (what I suspected all along), I am finding it hard to know what to do with this information – harder than I expected. I thought I would feel like I understood myself now, that I had a group to belong to, that now I know the reason (or maybe combination of reasons) why I am the way I am (as it were) that I would feel better about myself. But really I just feel the same, with the added complication of having to tell people about it. Well, I don’t have to, but it would be a bit weird not to.
I’m not saying it’s not a relief to know – at least to know that I wasn’t wrong, but I feel that it’s just another thing to add to my list of weirdnesses, rather than something positive – oddly, I felt more positive about autism before I was diagnosed with it. Maybe that’s just because I often see myself as a massive ball of weirdness – so how can autism be a positive thing if I have it? Also, you know, what if she just said I’m on the spectrum because my workplace paid her to assess me? I don’t know – I am being paranoid, and goodness knows I’ve been thinking I’m autistic for ages, so it’s not like the diagnosis was a surprise, but still, I’m not feeling how I expected to feel. I am ruffled. I think I need to talk to someone who will understand, but I’m not sure who that is.
The psychologist said if the term was still in use she would have said I have Asperger’s, but as it isn’t she says I am mildly autistic – this just means my intelligence and speech are good, but doesn’t mean that my autism won’t cause me any difficulties, in fact in some situations I might react just as ‘badly’ as people with who are moderately/severely autistic. I guess it just depends on whether or not I’m in a ‘triggering’ situation, one that I find particularly difficult to process sensorily (I think that’s the first time I’ve used that word)
by (the use of) the senses; by means of the senses; in relation to or in respect of the senses
to explore the world sensorily
– Collins English Dictionary